Written By Ayodele Adeoye

The original intent of God who designed marriage is for it to be built on love and trust. Today it is unfortunate that most marriages are built on many things like wealth, beauty, fame, lies, sex etc. Any marriage whose foundation is not built on LOVE and TRUST is nothing but a mirage. Undoubtedly, this is the reason why many marriages crash before puberty stage. God himself is love and that is why he’s married to the church without making any attempt to divorce her.

Song of Solomon 8:7 Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.

As strong as flood is, it cannot drown genuine love; not even many waters(troubles) can quench the fire of love. In some marriages, the fire of love is no more burning while in some the fire has gone so dim that a small drop of water can quench the fire. Until we find the missing love in our marriage, joy, peace and harmony will be elusive.

Men and women who don’t love God can’t give perfect love to their spouse. Genuine love emanates from God. God is the origin and source of love. The bible says God is love. A man can only give what he has. When a man or a woman is in love, it’s much more easier to forgive because love does not fail.

Where then is our missing love? Who has stolen our love? It’s no other person than this bastard devil, whose mission is to destroy love, steal love and kill love in marriages. When he succeeds in taking God out of any union, he has succeeded in taking love out of it. The love of this world and the things therein have stolen our love away. Selfishness and self-centeredness has drowned our love. Pride and ego has made our love rotten. Sin and wickedness have polluted our love for our spouses. Unforgiveness and bitterness has become like cancer in our marriages. Until we return back to the Author of marriage, all human efforts to bring bliss into our marriages will result in fruitless effort.

Mechanics can repair damaged cars but not like the manufacturer. The doctor can cure you of sickness and disease but not like the Maker of the body. If your marriage is rotten and void of love, the best place to take it to is the manufacturer’s workshop. Jesus is waiting for you to bring your marriage that have gone sour so that he can add his sweet wine again. He did it in Cannan of Galilee, he will do it again. Your marriage can be sweet again if you can invite Jesus into it. 

May your marriage experience the breeze of love from the throne of grace.

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